మార్చి 6, 2014

Parent or Pay’rent’

Posted in Ponderer's Box at 9:49 సా. by వసుంధర

Parents and children live through a bond of affection and attachment. It is unfortunate if the bond is replaced by need-based and business-like relationship. It is more than unfortunate if this kind of relationship is considered advancement. In this context, the following trademark incident and landmark judgment in a country as advanced as the US creates hope for the peaceful coexistence of parents and children as well as bright  future for teenagers.  You may also click here for the link (appeared in the Times of India, March 6, 2014).  

High school girl who sued parents loses first round

Chidanand Rajghatta TNN

PROBLEM CHILD: Rachel Canning

Washington: Whoever said parenting is a thankless task can cite this as prime evidence. In a case that has caught the even rebels in a litigious society slack-jawed, an 18-year old high-school girl in New Jersey sued her parents to force them to pay for her schooling and living costs after storming out of the home because she didn’t want to follow some basic house rules they sought to establish — like helping with chores. 
    Rachel Canning turned up in school uniform for the first day of hearing at a family court, but it didn’t go well for her. Judge Peter Bogaard scolded her and lamented the breakdown of the family after reading an expletive-laden message from Rachel to her mother, according to courtside reports. “’Have you ever in your experience seen such gross disrespect for a parent?” he was quoted as saying. “What is the next step …are we going to open the gates for a 12-year-old to sue for an Xbox, a 13-year-old to sue for an iPhone… what about a 15-yearold asking for a 60 inch TV?” 
    Rachel’s parents, Elizabeth and Sean Canning, broke down in court as details of how their family was torn apart were read out. But the high-schooler, on the cusp of going to college, stared ahead without remorse after the judge ruled that the parents did not have to pay her school fees amounting to $5,300 and denied her request for weekly allowance and additional financial support, including attorney fees of $13,000. He delayed a ruling on whether the parents must pay her collegetuition from a fund they had set up, while asking lawyers to consider whether it’s wise to “establish precedent where parents live in fear of establishing rules of the house.” 
    Rachel Canning, from all accounts a bright student who wants to be a bio-medical engineer, says that her parents kicked her out of their home when she turned 18 last October. She has claims her mother called her ‘fat’ and ‘porky,’ insults that led her to suffering bulimia. “My parents simply will not help me any longer. They want nothing to do with me and refuse to even help me financially outside the home although they certainly have the ability to do so. … I am unable to support myself and provide for my food, shelter, clothing, transportation and education,” she said in court documents. 
    But her parents say she opted to leave because she didn’t want to follow their house rules that included being respectful, keeping a curfew, returning borroweditems to her two sisters, managing a few chores, and reconsidering or ending her relationship with a boyfriend the parents believe is a bad influence. “Private school, new car, college education; that all comes with living under our roof,” her father, Sean Canning, a retired police chief of the township where they live, told a local television station. 
    “We’re heartbroken, but what do you do when a child says ‘I don’t want your rules but I want everything under the sun and you to pay for it?’” Canning told the local Daily Record, adding that his daughter’s college fund is available to her and not withdrawn or re-allocated, as she has alleged. “We love our child and miss her. It’s killing me and my wife. We’re not Draconian and now we’re getting hauled into court. She’s demanding that we pay her bills but she doesn’t want to live at home and she’s saying, ‘I don’t want to live under your rules’.” 
    Meanwhile, the twitterati has weighed in on the case in what some say amounts to a witchhunt. “Rachel canning is a stupid idiot and her parents should kick her out! she is the daftest person on the planet #meanbiatch,” wrote one Twitterer. Another tweeted: “Rachel Canning is giving current teens a bad name, can we just ignore her already so she’ll crawl back in the bubble she came out of?” A third warned: Wondering if #RachelCanning realizes that every future prospective employer will Google her. 
    Rachel has reportedly been living with a school friend, whose lawyer father has been helping her with the litigation but not representing her.

నవంబర్ 24, 2013

Indian Secularism

Posted in Ponderer's Box at 8:01 సా. by వసుంధర

India is a free country with secular credentials. All are equal in the country irrespective of their caste and creed. However, selfish politicians created the term minorities.and immature or uneducated electorate took it for granted. Secularism is also redefined to brand some political parties as non-secular. The common man respects all religions but the leaders make all attempts to induce hatred into his mind. We received an article from Shridevi Muralidhar, which was converted into a  power point presentation by Murali Ahobila (muraliahobilav@yahoo.com) to highlight the Indian tolerance in comparison with other nations. This is only for awareness and not propaganda for or against any community or political party. The article had also a clarification accordingly. Please click here for the presentation in pdf form. 

అక్టోబర్ 28, 2013

Super Hero?!

Posted in Ponderer's Box at 7:11 సా. by వసుంధర


‘A superhero uses all his powers to serve others. He believes that life is less about you and more about the people who love you’ – this is what super star Hritik Roshan said in the following news item appeared in the Hyderabad Times of The times of India today.

We believe our political leaders as super heroes. Do they stand upto the above view?


Hiren Kotwani

Hrithik Roshan, who returns in triple roles — Rohit, Krishna and Krrish — in producer-director Rakesh Roshan’s upcoming Krrish 3, says anyone can find a hero within.
“I have always strived to imbibe good qualities and values from all the characters I have essayed through the years. It has been a constant search, a mission to grow into a stronger and better human being. The values that define Krrish have had the biggest impact on my life,” he says.
The actor adds, “A superhero uses all his powers to serve others. He believes that life is less about you and more about the people who love you… these are qualities I live by. Any one of us can find that superhero inside of us. Anyone can choose to be a superhero once we recognise the values he lives by. All we have to do is decide. I keep his symbol to remind me of those values, to remind me in times of despair that I can overcome anything. This symbol has empowered me to rise each time and create the greatest story ever told.”
“Let’s make it our mission to live the best life possible… take our weaknesses and use it to fuel our strengths. I believe in the Krrish inside all of us. It’s time now for you to find him inside you.” Hrithik concludes.
Krrish 3, produced by FilmKraft Productions, releases November 1.







మే 15, 2012

News n Olds

Posted in Chit Chat, Ponderer's Box at 1:00 సా. by వసుంధర

* Most Indians today are only concerned with three things: cricket, films and the downfall of their neighbour- Krishna Prasad

yeah- the fourth dimension is elusive yet….

* AI is not India and that the larger interests of the country are more important than one airline’s interests- G R Gopinath 

yeah- India needs air, not Air India….

* I am willing to place a bet – Air India cannot and will never make money- Chetan Bhagat

….betting seems to be the last resort for Air India finances.

* It is in communications that India’s transformation in recent years has been most dramatic- Shashi Tharoor

….if cells are reserved for all the erring politicians, the transformation through cells will be romantic too for the public.

* Indians are famously argumentative, with long histories of radical thought and free speech- editorial May 14 TOI

….you laughing at yourself is always a better proposition than others laughing at you

* Stab me in heart, but don’t doubt my integrity: P Chidambaram

….the common man in our democracy is considered only an integer and is being stabbed all the time. What does he say on hearing this?


మార్చి 1, 2012

Be happy! Be sexy?!

Posted in Ponderer's Box at 12:56 సా. by వసుంధర

For a man, a woman can be a mother, sister or daughter. There are set norms for man’s behavior towards them. However, he cannot think of calling them sexy. He can use the term sexy to a woman if she is a film star, model or his wife. How about a friend?

It’s okay to call a woman sexy. At a seminar in Jaipur on Feb 25, 2012, the head of the National Commission of Women, Mamta Sharma suggested, “Don’t be offended if someone says ‘sexy’, rather take it positively.”

Now lot of debate is going on whether it was appropriate on her part to suggest this. Some feel the word is a compliment and some others complement. Some say it is a modern supplement to the word beautiful. However, a sizeable number also feel the word may suggest sensuous feeling.

Personally I do not like to call a woman friend sexy even if she has that appeal. But why should I propagate my personal view? It is purely as private a matter as sex. If she feels the word as a compliment, fine, call her sexy. If she feels embarassed, it is also fine, do not call her sexy. A man and woman could be associates or accomplices. How they call each other is their own look out and exclusive right! Why a public debate on this?

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